Areille - the Lioness of God

Wednesday, October 25, 2006

Communication Boxes!

Do you sometimes feel that you can box your friends into one mode of communication? There are certain people I can talk on the phone for hours together but when I meet them face to face, I have nothing to share. There are some others whose chats are so witty and quick that you stay amazed, but the minute you make that call, their voice just doesn't have the same oomph you imagined. Some of us might like the shy kinds, who tend to be uninhibited over Orkut and might even put you off, but their 'sharmaana' in person, gets you all tingly!

This can be a very very scary thing in the world that we live in today. We are meeting potential life partners online, many of us maintain long distance relationships. With cell phone minutes getting cheaper, we spend hours on the phone as we drive or shop and spend lesser time face to face. We start forming our own versions of the people we communicate with and the few meets that we manage, we many a times get dissappointed. Actually, the scarier thing might be brushing off that initial disappointment and realizing reality only when it's too late.

Emails, snail mails, phones, instant messengers, blogs, scraps, face2face - Which box are you?

P.S. I had been wanting to post on this forever but finally got down to it when I received this email from a friend:

"I think our medium is email. :)"

19 Comments:

  • At 10/25/2006 9:43 AM, Blogger woorkeri wittynathan said…

    I must admit your posts are getting increasingly insightful; the simple, 'stuff we have subsconsciously registered, but never aired our thoughts about' kind. As Khushwant Singh once said, 'Thank God a condom for the pen has not been invented.'

     
  • At 10/25/2006 9:48 AM, Blogger SternMystic said…

    areille: You're absf***inglutely correct. Another thing you can't judge is the visual mood of the person over non-visual communication. Thats why sometimes, I don't chat if I'm in a hurry, because if the person on the other end expected a long haul and I say hi, gotta run, it could be quite damaging. I do that only if I'm 90% sure the person on the other end won't mind.


    woorkeri: hahaha! Khushwanth rules.

     
  • At 10/25/2006 1:17 PM, Anonymous prasadu said…

    :) Quite true. I found people who are the most witty over phone to be absolute blah when I meet. However, if I've met them in person and they werent as charming over phone, I can live with it.

    Nothing beats being real and in person.

    And you my dear is the same all through :)

     
  • At 10/25/2006 4:25 PM, Blogger ciara said…

    Areille - I can yak and yak with you over orkut..chat...phone...and in person!!! MARRY ME!!! :)

     
  • At 10/26/2006 9:53 PM, Blogger Shebang said…

    I have had thought blocks once a while like this one. When you meet someone in person, there are simply more things that could potentially run through your head - "like where are we going after this, did I just accidentally stare somewhere, what does she think is appropriate etc". On the phone the variables are much lower. The focus is just on having a great conversation.

    I pity the ones who make you tingly. :)

    Nice post, you are on a roll!

     
  • At 10/26/2006 10:08 PM, Blogger Shebang said…

    to finish off. It is probably wrong to hastily box someone. The more comfortable you get, the edges of the box begin to crack.

    hehe ok shebang stop.

     
  • At 10/27/2006 12:42 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Well, there is one slight snitch to the whole process. Sometimes people are not just what they seem to be or sound to be....Atleast,i guess Pisceans are not('Cos I am one :-))

    You know,I react in different ways to different people and situations and sometimes I dont even know why. For example,I am very outgoing and friendly with someone and I am kinda reserved with someone. Sometimes when I am tired,I show off like I am the Duracell bunny rabbit and sometimes when I am really charged up,I kinda feign disinterest. I really dunno why I do that...But the point I am trying to make here is, to just be yourself with whoever you are communicating is sometimes no fun at all....:-)

    End result : Dont put me into any box, I keep jumping out....he he. But I agree with shebang...A conversation on the phone has lesser variables to deal with and hence,it is easier.

     
  • At 10/27/2006 12:44 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    But Lioness,you are right...its a really dangerous habit to form our own versions of our friend....we lose out on so much of the other person. btw...Arielle is greek???

     
  • At 10/27/2006 7:54 AM, Anonymous pokiri said…

    Ramchand - reading your first comment, it doesnt really seem like you are being yourself at any given moment :)

    Evreyone else: Areille is awesome. You are only allowed to say that.

    Main note: I too love to see ciata getting married to Areille :))

     
  • At 10/27/2006 10:50 AM, Blogger ciara said…

    And Pokiri ALWAYS comes back to the most important point!! ;)

     
  • At 10/27/2006 11:59 AM, Anonymous pokiri said…

    Ciara: :) You've ALWAYS known me. Please move here ;-)

     
  • At 10/29/2006 8:57 AM, Blogger Areille said…

    witty/stern: thankoo

    ciara: sigghh, i do! :D

    pokiri: love ya dearie! :D

    shenbang: i do agree that is wrong to hastily put someone in a box but in the 'fast-paced' world we live in today, thats what each of us seem to be doing. I seem to do it over and over. Kinda sucks.

    ram: I don't think if i belong to one communication box wiht one friend, its the same all around. Every person we associate, brings out a diff. part of us. I don't think I switch so often as u do with the same person. But its an awesome quality that u possess.

    Areille is Hebrew for lioness of God. I am a Leo and have been called catty many times ;) and i lovvvvee the cat family, and thus the name! :D

     
  • At 10/30/2006 10:30 AM, Blogger Zywie said…

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  • At 10/30/2006 10:32 AM, Blogger Zywie said…

    One of your best posts..

     
  • At 10/30/2006 9:20 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    hmm....interesting....i really loved the name Communication boxes....well...juss frm personal experience....at times u find some1 who fits all the boxes....but still there is no connection or no want to make one....and at times juss one of the box match says it all....the trick is to use the boxes wisely....:)

     
  • At 10/30/2006 9:53 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    hmmm...interesting name....Communication Boxes...:)

    well...some1 told me tat "sometimes u want to put a face to a name..."....is it poss tat this need doesnt let u enjoy the Communication boxes as they are....??....it urges u to find more abt a box even if u r perfectly happy with the way it is....juss to spoil it all...:(

    why cant we juss enjoy a Box as it is and in the media it works best...??

     
  • At 11/03/2006 12:29 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    pokiri : I gotta admit...I am never myself. Cos I never know what I am all about. Never been able to predictt myself or understand myself. I feel I am two entities. One watching....One going out there and doing stuff.

    Arielle: Well,you say that it brings out a different facet of you,with everyone rite? Thats what I am getting at too. These boxes are just masks...

     
  • At 11/03/2006 1:02 PM, Blogger Vikas said…

    Not sure how I landed here but your blog seems to be fun..
    I think I am face to face or phone kinda person...
    When I start writing a personal email can't go more than.. "how are you? Whats going on these days"..
    left chatting years ago...
    these days social networking sites are fun though..

     
  • At 11/06/2006 12:53 PM, Anonymous Dhwipa said…

    This is sooo tru... I have spent time on the phone with many people and yes there are amazing conversations - - - but when I have hung out with them there two things that happen (1) I am sooo taken aback with their presence that I am tongue tied and (2) there is no essence from their end.... That is the worst... I like situation # 1 - but have not come across many of those... there is one tho... Makes me smile everytime I think about it.... But all in all, I do have modes for each person I talk to non-verbally

     

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