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Sunday, December 02, 2007

Battle of the Sexes - A woman's perspective!

I just saw Aaja Nachle and loved it.  Madhuri is in full form .. her dancing, gracefulness, acting .... muuuuah!  Anyway, this post is really not a review of the movie but  is still kinda related. 

One of the side characters in the movie is this ungroomed girl who is in loveee with a cutie boy.  And the only way she knows how to profess her love is by sticking to him 24/7.  She figures the more time she spends with him, he is bound to love her.  But then, lucky for her, she gets advised.  She learns from another's experience that guys are tuned differently.  She is told that the more she sticks to him, the more he is going to run away or resent her very sight.  So she first begins by becoming presentable and then starts the very popular hard-to-get game.  She realizes that this 'hard to get' game is really 'hard-to-play', but she keeps it up and what do you know!!

Yes we have learnt the tricks and work arounds ... but it makes me wonder why men and women are wired so differently.  Through some painful embarrassing experiences, some of us girls learn the above.  Others are lucky to find friends to pass on this invaluable info.   And even though, we are now educated, we still manage to reply to every email, text message and phone call of the guy we want, in a few mins.  The 'ignoring' part is a lot of hard-work for us which we succeed at here and there.  There are days when you get so fed up and take a stance - "I am going to ignore him completely today".  The phone rings, it's him, you avoid.  2 mins later, you start wondering, what if it was something life threatening(when is it ever?  And would he really call you??), I should just call to see if he is safe!  And there we go!  Ugh!  Ya you could say we are kind and considerate, but more than that, we find ourselves so dumb when we call back, and he doesn't answer ... and doesn't bother to call for the next whole week!!!!  Dammit I should have just ignored it the first time and left it at that!  

The funny thing is at the end of it, all of us have the same goal - to love and to be loved.  I guess we just like complicating the paths to attain it.  Keeps us amused huh? 

7 Comments:

  • At 12/04/2007 7:16 AM, Blogger Charanya said…

    I especially love the quick back and forth email exchanges...and then BHAM...silence...from the other person...who has now better things to do...and u're like...crap...I should have not replied to that last email....this should have ended with me!!...hahaha....it's all very silly and childish...but oh well...

     
  • At 12/05/2007 1:02 AM, Blogger zaph said…

    i don't think this behavior is unique to men. even women find themselves attracted to guys who ignore them and chase away as insufferable the ones who are constantly chasing them. i believe the underlying thought is very simple, we all value that which is hard to get.

     
  • At 12/05/2007 6:31 PM, Blogger Improper Bostonian said…

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  • At 12/05/2007 6:37 PM, Blogger Improper Bostonian said…

    quite true all the time...i had been chasing girls for years, but only recently realized that 3 girls whom I see all the time have been interested in me for years...in the end it was an easy decsion, as only one of them was a desi girl...

    an analogous quote to "grass is always greener on the other side" would be:
    Neighbor's wife is always prettier than yours - One of Arsene Wenger's quote in 2003 or 2004

    you only see what you want to see...sometimes you fail to see the obvious, as you start taking it for granted...

     
  • At 12/05/2007 11:53 PM, Blogger zaph said…

    btw, saw Aaja Nachle yesterday, absolute firecracker of a movie

     
  • At 12/11/2007 8:30 AM, Blogger Areille said…

    Zaph: Completely agree. It works both ways! And isn't Mads just amazin?

    IB: Glad you could see through the games our minds play and make the right choice. :)

     
  • At 1/29/2008 2:14 PM, Anonymous Twopenny said…

    Aha! here we go with the "chaee" and "mind games" again!

    Does it really have to be this way? Did you realize that a lot of people fall in love and staying love because they have spent a lot of time with each other? On the other hand, a lot of the fizzle just dies out once the "hard-to-get"person is eating out of your hands..then what? once the excitement is over , is the relationship over?

    What's wrong with showing your interest in someone by replying to their email/call/text msg? If you want attention, doesn't the other person as well?Don't they deserve your attention?

    What's wrong with NOT playing games and taking that call cos you care-- and if you are in a meeting etc and cannot reply, it's a very legit excuse! Or if you are scared its going too far too fast, i's OK to back down as well!

    It's a known fact guys enjoy the chase & somehow think girls who are hard-to-get are somehow more innocent...but I have also heard guys say these games are tiresome & just not worth it...

    So when do we grow up?

     

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