Areille - the Lioness of God

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

Try try again? Not always!

Being in love can be very painful especially when not reciprocated. We spend days/weeks/months and sometimes even years 'trying' to let go ... but all in vain. It's weird, but experience has taught me that the minute we stop trying to let go ... our heart lets go. Of course, it's the toughest to come to terms with that ... cause letting go means giving up all hope and we love to hold on to that last weak string of hope. That's just human nature.

Similarly, the quest for a new love, new life partner ... 50% of the people I know .. are on this hunt. Trying so hard to find 'the one', and yet so many failed attempts. Again, here too, it seems when we stop trying ... it comes our way. Love happens and you wonder what hit you! It's tough to believe this is true ... but time and again ... this has proven itself to me.

A good friend once told me - find happiness within yourself, be content on your own. You should never be dependent on someone else to bring this to you. Relying on someone else will only bring you pain - that person might disappear one day or might tear themselves away cause of your 'neediness'. And then what? Why let someone else shatter your peace of mind? If you find it all within, you will never be disappointed. Be content, be happy, love yourself - and you are bound to attract the right people.

Also, if you have to try 'so' hard to achieve them - ever thought maybe they are just not right for you?

I dedicate this post to all the beautiful people in my life on this eternal quest!

9 Comments:

  • At 9/17/2008 8:11 AM, Anonymous Vishwas said…

    Oh yes... that eternal quest that seems to revolve around our world. It is a funny thing this quest, we try, we find then we try more and then it eludes us. The illusion of the successful quest is the primary driver, it keeps us going. Then one day the illusion fades away, we give up, and try to find solace within. The next day we wake up, we sniff the eternal quest again and the process continues. Its a vicious cycle, one that teases and then laughs back. A wise man once said, "nothing comes our way if we don't try". I ponder on that once in a while! :)

    Nice blogging G3, something more to think about. :)

     
  • At 9/18/2008 7:20 AM, Blogger Charanya said…

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  • At 9/18/2008 7:21 AM, Blogger Charanya said…

    Cannot agree more with the point that one has to be happy on their own and with themselves rather than seek happiness in someone else...The person you end up with should complement your happiness and share it with you, but if you expect him/her to give you that happiness, you will probably end up being disappointed!

     
  • At 9/18/2008 11:18 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    As John Lennon and his buddies once said, "Let it be..."

     
  • At 9/21/2008 7:01 PM, Anonymous Anupama said…

    Better put..Plant your garden and decorate your own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers. :-)

     
  • At 9/23/2008 7:27 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    but but someone bringing flowers is so much more exciting then the boring sayings.

     
  • At 10/06/2008 10:39 AM, Blogger zaph said…

    if one is completely independent and content, then there really is no need of another. so if someone does come wafting in and grabs your attention, the very fact that you notice them means you failed to reach the said state of contentment. paradox.

     
  • At 10/14/2008 7:38 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    ......the brain sometimes comes in the way of the heart when it tries to rationalize that which is not.

    s

     
  • At 11/04/2008 3:20 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Like I always say ..you only fall in love if you WANT to....so if you feel like you are ready to share yourself with someone else, you will take an opportunity and be happy with what you have, & if you are just not ready, even the most perfect match will seem inadequate...remember the times you fell in love? It was not with the most perfect person or the ideal person you had imagined, it was with someone who grabbed your attention in some unexpected way and made you want to know the person more, to fall in love with them....at least give folks a chance and go beyond the everyday chit-chat only if you look inside will you see how different they are as lovers than as friends...

     

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