Areille - the Lioness of God

Tuesday, December 11, 2007

My "Type"?

So yeah, marriages all around. It's just that time of the year when a whole bunch of ppl you know are going to go to INdia and either come back engaged to someone they didn't know 2 weeks back or marry their lovers of a few years! I am always happy to hear about other people's success stories in the love arena but I often wonder why I haven't found my mate yet. It's not that I haven't had opportunities ... but either I have messed them up or just didn't feel that they were my 'type'. But I can't help but wonder if I am the one who is cuckoo here. Are my expectations too high? What really is my type? Have I forgotten how to compromise? Or am I so heavily influenced by the movies, the love at first sight and the sparks that when I don't see it in the first look, I get disappointed.

I was talking to my sis yesterday and getting some words of wisdom from her. She said it well. You are never going to like everything you see about the guy the first time you see him. Even the best friends you have today, it's not like you felt the same about them from the very first moment. It took time and a lot of ups and downs to bring the relationship to where it is today! With time we grow to love the good in a person and ignore the bad. Then why do we expect our "love" relation to be flawless. WHy are we so quick to jump into a conclusion?

A random Leo horoscope of the day:

"You keep saying someone's not your type - but how has your type worked out before? It's worth giving someone different a shot."

4 Comments:

  • At 12/28/2007 8:51 AM, Blogger Ekka said…

    haha u almost wrote ditto what i feel all the time too. filmibaaz tum akele nahi ho. later

     
  • At 1/03/2008 6:26 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Nice Blog, Totally agreed Dec-Jan is the official marriage time in India.

    I was thinking about "WHy are we so quick to jump into a conclusion?" and I quickly came to the conclusion that one keeps updating the review of almost everyone they know each second.

    Yeah but the first impression decides what's going to happen next.

    Keep blogging

     
  • At 1/07/2008 4:42 PM, Blogger Improper Bostonian said…

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  • At 1/07/2008 4:45 PM, Blogger Improper Bostonian said…

    I get a feeling that you think way too much, to such an extent, that you end up complicating simple things in life...I think there is always something interesting ( the X factor) in everyone...the X factor might vary from person to person...as you get to the other person you learn more about the person, both +ves and -ves...eventually, if you like spending time with the other guy, you will certainly see more +ves than -ves...its all an illusion...jus as Upanishads say "you only see what you want to see"...and this illusion is subject to change over time, as nothing is permanent...

    agreed, one should have some elementary set of constraints in deciding the right partner...but i am sure there exists a non-empty set that satisfies both your constraints and maximizes happiness or minimizes pain, depending on ur objective function in life

    best wishes for 2008, arielle !!!

     

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