Areille - the Lioness of God

Thursday, February 14, 2008

Luv Shmuv!!! BAHH!

Valentines Day - a day when many are proposed, many become committed, many get courage to confess their most personal feelings, oooh how romantic eh??? Well not really my thoughts. I hate this day. Acc. to me, this is the most cleverly commercialized idiotic day which we (including me) fall prey for. Who the hell was St. Valentine and why should me, a Konkani girl born in Udupi, care??? Roses, which would normally be $20 for the dozen, become $20 a stem. If you are in a long distance relationship, delivering anything which has to reach on the 14th of Feb is 10 times more expensive than delivering just the next day. If you forget to make dinner reservations well in advance, you are forced to have dinner at 10:30p at a restaurant you may not even want to go to ... just cause everyone at work is going to ask you where you went! And of course, you get asked that question - "Soo what did you get??" UGh! How I want to reply saying "Leave me alone. Mind your own business." So what if I am a couple and don't get anything? I don't need that "Aww Shucks ... it's ok" look from you. You seriously think it means my guy loves me any lesser than yours? Have you ever thought that the one thing it might mean is that your guy is ONLY doing this out of the fear of hearing you nag him with your high pitched voice for the next month?? "Aww Poor Him" I say!! And this is all for those people who supposedly have it good on this day - the couples!

The poor unfortunate singles ... oh they are just doomed. Oh how I hate those "Aww I'm Sorry ... you'll find love soon" looks, when the 5 cubes surrounding you in all directions have got surprise red rose bouquets and all you have is your sheepish smile!! Hell Yeah I'll find love ... and it definitely will be better than the loser you have wrapped around you! Grrr ... I hate this day for being so discriminating. It makes you feel bad for being single, being free, being yourself and being 'picky' about the one you date!! It makes you feel 'loserish' but we all know the real losers are the ones with those empty wallets!!

And the worst part is, even though I have felt this way for many MANY of those "Single status" valentines, the few that I have been a couple, I too have wanted those gifts and those bouquets!! I hate myself for wanting those. I hate myself for feeling a 'little' bad when I don't get those. Why should I force some guy to buy me overly priced crap just cause Hallmark thinks so??? I guess the only consolation is, no matter if you are single or a couple, noone (other than the rose vendors) has it good on this day ... so be yourself, buy those gifts if you feel it, buy it tomorrow if you are not in the mood today, don't give in to the pressure, buy them for yourselves cause you are worth it and most importantly breathe .... tomorrow really is going to be better (or at least cheaper)!

P.S. The one thing I really LOVE about this day is Dark Chocolate Covered Strawberries ... mmmm!! They should have those all year round! :D


  • At 2/14/2008 9:10 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Actually I've felt really good being single on valentine's for that gave me an excuse to mock couples and all the losers I could have been with, and didn't end up with. Now that I have that special someone to spend it with, I am just content, and dont feel sorry for/want to mock singles. The reason being, everyone makes a conscious decision to stay single or not to. Some of us dont get the love we've yearned for years/months or have been dumped...but its a conscious decision to be that way. All I want to say is, whether you're single, freshly dumped or dont get the love of your life, move on!!! There's so much to look forward to than to sulk about being single or in a messy is too short!

  • At 2/14/2008 12:15 PM, Blogger sandhya said…

    Overly hyped. Highly Commercialized. Although its just another day. It's Bittersweet! Celebrate YOU!:)

  • At 2/14/2008 12:29 PM, Blogger Charanya said…

    Agree with Sandy - it's just another day - It used to bug me a lot....but now I'm just indifferent about it!

    The admins running around my office wearing red, distributing chocolates and being all peppy, is bugging me more than not having a date tonight! hahaha.....

  • At 2/14/2008 12:35 PM, Blogger Charanya said…

    I lunched with my colleagues today and one of them was boasting abt the fact that he paid just 12.99 for a dozen roses...seemed more happy abt that than actually giving his wife the flowers....hahahahaha....

  • At 2/14/2008 4:46 PM, Blogger Ankit said…

    Those It's ok looks are really bad. Here is my Valentines day

    8:00 I showed up at work and there are heart shaped cookies on my desk which were really cool and I ate them all.

    after morning coffee and before lunch

    everyone is discussing what should they buy which is not bad and at the same time not expensive.

    Lunch time :work emails saying Happy Valentines day!!!! to everyone in the company.

    Around 3:30 - 4:00

    Some guy comes in my cube and says that he is leaving bcos they have to go to some dinner or whatever.....Here is the best part he is asking the guy sitting just next to me that why isn't he leaving early and what's his plan for tonight (obviously both of them were giving me those it's ok looks as they knew that I am one of those poor alone guys)

    Well in the whole day I tried to sneak out from some conversations but still got stuck in one or two and used my usual I am too tired smile....I'll probably stay at home....and at the end left early for celebrating my VD.

    Well I really don't hate this what if it's commercialised and overly priced. I guess the concept should be just to use it as a reminder to have some good time and relax. Don't spend too much if you don't want too.

    Well all said and done Happy Valentines day to you all!!!

  • At 2/14/2008 8:05 PM, Anonymous Anand said…

    Happy Valentine's day :)

  • At 2/15/2008 9:27 AM, Blogger Areille said…

    Anony: My post wasn't anti-love ... or anti-singledom, just anti-the-pressure-this-day-brings!

    Sandhya, Cha ... I did celebrate me! Got some Chinese to-go and watched a fun hindi movie!! Life is good!

    Ankit!! You are funny! :P

    Anand ... same to yoU! :)

  • At 2/15/2008 12:18 PM, Blogger Ankit said…

    hmmmm hindi movie.....interesting.

  • At 2/15/2008 12:37 PM, Blogger Areille said…

    Yun hota to kya hota ... seen it?? Nothing terribly exciting in the movie .. but was entertaining enough.

  • At 2/15/2008 12:42 PM, Blogger Ankit said…

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  • At 2/23/2008 9:45 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    I understand your situation having faced similar stuff myself. My way of celebrating V-Day and feeling happy about it is to enjoy the feeling anyway. Everyone likes being loved and appreciated and one way to celebrate V-day is to appreciate all the folks who love you in all their different ways...I did send e-cards to my friends, family, and colleagues telling them how much I appreciate them in my life....& we all felt good about it!

    In fact I once entered an essay contest on "how will you celebrate your V-day?" by writing precisely about this-- V-Day is abt love & appreciation of that love in all its forms in your life--your family, friends, & yes, you yourself....&& I won second place ;).....
    You could say this was my way of "if you can't beat them, join 'em" --in the V-Day mania that is... :D

    I do remember other "non-single" V-days which also did not feel special..maybe 'cos back then all days felt like V-day & it was not just one special day in the year when one had to love & be loved...:)So yeah, we did go out for dinner or surprise each other, but did not save the roses, chocolates & gifts only for V-Day....know how much more special it is to get a gift when there is absolutely no reason...?

    BTW- V-Day is celebrated in memory of St. Valentine who was imprisoned and killed for secretly marrying soldiers to their sweethearts in times of war when soldiers were barred from marrying (to prevent them from having any ties back home that would distract them from their job in battle).
    For a romantic idealist, I thought you would know that....

    Peace & Love,

  • At 2/25/2008 4:50 AM, Blogger Shumit said…

    Its natural to want something for V day I guess. I always hoped to get something too but the women I dated never thought it was a big deal. Also, it really sucks when you break up just before the god damn f$%^^& V day. I usually blame my break-ups on my running just to convince myself that I am superman..hahh !! Good blog and keep writing

  • At 2/26/2008 12:08 PM, Blogger Areille said…

    Shumit: Breaking up b4 V-day? Sucks ... or maybe ... you have just been saved! ;) Keep running! :D

    Anony: I have heard many versions of ST. Valentine, some which say the connection to Love is entirely fictional. So who knows whats true there! And I agree .. getting or giving a gift for absolutely no reason is the best! :)


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