The Desi man evolves!

One very wise man once told my Dad - "Bhaairee dood mellaree, gaay kassala posche?" which translates to - "WHy would you bother raising a cow when milk is so readily available?".

If you aren't getting what this is meant to mean, let me explain it all. Historically, Indian men were always eager to marry for simple reasons - sex, home cooked food, don't like to clean, and freely available sex. SO basically it would be because most of them haven't gotten 'any' and don't know how to get 'any', and so they get married, coz then they can get 'some'! Or atleast this is how it used to be.

But the world is changing. Our desi boys are dressing better ... looking better. They are frequenting strip clubs which probably helps better their confidence cause those girls are so-damn-agreeable and then a few girlfriends and heartbreaks later, we have got pro's running around. I have seen our desi boys with some hot chicks - S. American, American, Polish, Persian, you name it! Basically, they are getting some. I have to add, even though many men like to announce that they are still 'virgins' and are saving themselves for marriage, but the truth is that most of them have done nearly every damn thing possible other than the final deed. So in my books - you are no virgin. Back to the point I was trying to get at, so now we have desi boys who are definitely getting some and just because of their bachelor living in the US have learnt to cook and clean. And ofcourse to add to our misery, we have all those gujju auntys in every remote city of the US ready to deliver a full-fledged delicious home cooked meal for just $3.99.

No wonder it has become so tough for us desi girls to find someone who actually wants to commit to marriage!!! And you knwo what the scarier part is ... when they do want to commit, it makes me wonder- WHy???? =)

A personal reminder!

I feel very grateful today. Nope didn't get a big raise or a beautiful diamond necklace or a marriage proposal from some hunky dory dude. I got nothing new today ... but still, I have everything I need. And that's why I am grateful.

When I hear statistics like 80% of the Indian population survives in less than $2 a day or that 50,000 people around the world are going to die today just because of poverty, I can't help but be thankful. Oh my God, someone please hit me on the head when I complain about staying those extra 2 hrs at work or being passed up for a promotion or when I think my boyfriend doesn't love me cause he didn't call me for two whole hours. Seriously!!! I feel so ashamed. Our so-called sorrows are soooo insignificant that I am embarassed to even talk about them. We let our day to day crap bog us down so much that we forget what all those people, who are just like us, are going through in some other part of the world.

The reason I post this is as a reminder to myself. Cause I know that tomorrow or maybe even tonight, I will, cause of habit, complain about how dinner wasn't too good or how my hair is too frizzy! And I am hoping that one of you out there are with me to remind me just this very same thing. [P.S. It's amazing how statistics like 80% poverty isn't a reminder enough!]

Why are you still single?

To all the single people out there, has anyone ever asked you why you are still single? Well I got asked that recently and for once was pretty tongue-tied. Not sure of what to say ... I fumbled, made a few random nonsensical excuses and got myself out of it. But it definitely got me wondering ... why am I Single?

I look decent, have a good heart, don't think I expect to be with a Salman Khan lookalike or someone as rich as Bill Gates. All I am looking for is someone I click with, someone I am physically attracted to, someone I can talk to for hours and hours and not feel pressured or stressed, someone who gives me my space just like I would like to give him his. Am I asking for too much? Isn't this pretty much what everyone wants. Do I have some outlandish needs? I don't think so. Then why am I being penalised for being single?? Stop blaming me people .... I am an average girl with average needs. The more important question is can you handle me? ;-)